The Resilient Parent.
A tailored coaching experience for stressed, overwhelmed parents who are ready to replenish, reclaim and restore their energy.
Welcome
Parenting is hard.
We are doing it without our ‘village’ and it wasn’t meant to be this way.
The parents I work with come to me stressed and in a state of overwhelm. They are juggling so many plates that they are afraid to slow down for fear of everything coming crashing down. Feeling like they are failing at everything they keep trying harder and harder until they just have nothing left to give. Running on an empty tank, they’ve no idea who is driving the bus but they are pretty sure they want to get off.
They are lost in sea of emotions and barely recognize the wild, stormy version of themselves that they have become. Snapping at their children, their partner, their work colleagues. This really wasn’t the dream of parenthood they were sold.
Often they are struggling with their health, constantly fighting off colds and virus’s, fuelling themselves on caffeine and sugar to keep themselves performing at work whilst feeling exhausted from lack of sleep. Sometimes digestive issues are rumbling under the surface and draining their energy. They are oftentimes concerned about their sugar or alcohol use but just don’t know how to do things differently.
They’ve been hiding in the downstairs bathroom scrolling for the answers, consulting the WhatsApp groups, listening to podcasts - they have tried everything.
They tell me that they haven’t got time for coaching so they aren’t even sure why they are here.
Can you relate?
If, like most of the parents I work with, you are worried about parental burnout and are booking holidays or retreats to get the rest everyone is telling you that you need, this won’t work in the long term.
As wonderful as it is to escape for a little while, real life awaits and when you don’t know exactly what the root causes are, the afterglow soon fades and then the cycle begins again.
Burnout isn’t solved by rest alone, it’s solved by understanding how you got to this point. By uncovering the patterns of thoughts, feelings and emotions that are driving the behaviour which has left you exhausted and on the brink of burnout.
I know this, because I have been there. I experienced parental burnout in 2021 and have spent the last 4 years learning, training and healing to recover.
Prevention is better than cure.
I feel deeply passionate about supporting other parents to make sustainable changes in their lives and become the parent they know they are underneath the weight of all the expectations, responsibilities and demands that being a parent involves.
I’d love to help you too.
Parental Burnout
Parental burnout occurs when the demands of parenting outweigh the support and resources available to cope.
According to the World Health Organization (WHO), burnout is defined as occurring in the workplace but burnout can be experienced alongside other life pressures and excessive demands such as the responsibilities and relentless challenges of of being a parent and raising children.
Parental burnout isn't just caused by too much parenting.
It happens because of unmet needs and constant stress.
When work and family life blur together, and when parents try to meet high standards in both areas, burnout becomes more likely.
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Exhaustion.
Physical - deep fatigue that sleep isn’t resolving, feeling tired when getting up in the morning and having to face another day with the children.
Emotional - emotionally drained by the demands of being a parent and feeling like you can’t cope anymore.
Cognitive - feeling unable to think properly, procrastination and inability to make decisions.
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Emotional distancing.
A depletion of physical, emotional and cognitive energy, when exhaustion runs so deep that you feel like you have nothing left to give.
This exhaustion can then lead to detachment and emotional distancing as parents’ try to conserve energy and become less involved in the relationship with their children. Doing the bare minimum and not having the capacity to deal with your children’s emotional needs.
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Loss of effectiveness & pleasure.
The responsibilities can feel never ending and completely outweigh the rewards.
Ultimately this can lead to a constant sense of failure as a parent. An inability to show up as the parent you once were or wish to be, as you are unable to handle problems calmly or effectively.
This can trigger feelings of shame, guilt and resentment which can keep you stuck in the burnout cycle.
“I feel the best I’ve felt in a long time”
Learning how to nurture our mind and body is the greatest gift we can give ourselves and our family. The ripple effect of the changes made throughout and beyond the coaching journey are felt far and wide.
Your children
Your children start to notice you showing up with patience and presence. Pizza night Saturday is something you actually look forward to as you start to enjoy spending time with them. You notice that there is less conflict in the home, less arguments and less tantrums. They respond to your calm energy and laughter returns to the home.
Your partner
Your partner starts to notice the way you speak to them, the way you are responding rather than reacting to the children and to them. The way you are able to regulate your emotions and have a conversation instead of a screaming match. The smile that has appeared, the softness and the compassion.
Your work colleagues
Work colleagues start to notice your shift in confidence, a change in your energy and vibrancy. The way you have started to hold yourself, the way you are speaking up.
You
You start to notice the change in your energy levels, the sense of calm and presence. You are no longer running on stress and exhaustion. you feel a sense of balance.
You look around and realise how absent you’ve been and start to reengage with your life. You start to feel motivated to make changes which you’d previously told yourself you didn’t have time to do.
You start to become less reliant on the Starbucks in the morning to jump start your day, the chocolate in your desk drawer to get through the aftenoon slump and the glasses of wine in the evening to take the edge off another exhausting day.
You start to feel a new identity emerging, one which has been drowning under the demands of being a parent. You start to feel more connected with yourself and to others.
You start to feel alive again and this is where the magic happens.
The Resilient Parent.
The Resilient Parent Coaching Programme is for parents who feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck on the hamster wheel and want to regain their energy, manage stress more effectively, and create a calmer, more connected family life without sacrificing their own well being.
My approach.
Holistic approach.
Often the root causes of stress and burnout are much deeper than a busy job or hectic home life so as an integrative health practitioner my approach is focused on holistic health. I take a whole body approach so that my coaching can go beyond surface level solutions that just address symptoms.
My approach integrates foundations of my training in health and nutrition, coaching and therapeutic modalities with elements of eastern wisdom. Together we explore energy imbalances in the body and mind to empower you to replenish, reclaim and restore your natural energy levels.
My philosophy.
My philosophy is based on building self compassion, mindfulness and emotional intelligence. These I believe, are the cornerstones of resilience. They are also the qualities which I feel will help us to parent in the way we truly want and raise resilient children.
I meet you where you are at, our sessions are intended to be supportive and leave you feeling empowered to start to make the changes needed to pull you back from the brink of burnout. We work at a pace which suits you.
We will work together to create awareness of the sources of your stress and make small changes to so that you can successfully manage the root cause of your stress rather than trying to manage your emotional responses to it.
Throughout our time together I will create a safe, non judgemental, inclusive and compassionate space for you to explore your inner world, give voice to all of the things going unsaid and to unpack the heavy backpack you have been carrying around for so long.
Together we will create deep and meaningful change in your life.
Expert guidance and support.
I am a UKIHCA registered Integrative Health & Nutrition Coach, a IAPC&M Accredited Practitioner Coach, a Certified Mind Body Eating Coach and an Emotions Coaching Practitioner.
I’m experienced in supporting parents to build their stress resilience so that they can show up to their families with more energy, patience and emotional balance - without relying on unhealthy coping mechanisms like food, alcohol or overworking.
Mind Body Energy
My Mind Body Energy approach is based on the interconnectedness of the mind, beliefs, thoughts and emotions on the stress response, nervous system and physical body. Deep transformation requires energy so my approach is based on energy - how to create it, sustain it and protect it..
Introducing.
The Stress Spectrum™ Holistic Mind Body Energy Approach to Stress Resilience.
Mind Body Energy Roadmap.
Together we will create a sustainable plan for stress resilience that will form the foundations of your life way beyond our coaching.
Stress resilience requires a holistic approach to address all root causes of stress in your life. My unique framework is a fully integrated approach which supports a deep exploration of the spectrum of stress in your life. Everything which is draining your battery and keeping you stuck in chronic stress.
Sustained energy is key to thriving in all aspects of life.
The Stress Spectrum™ methodology is a mind body energy roadmap aimed at recharging your battery and moving you from stress, overwhelm and burnout to a calm, energised and resilient state.
Without a sustained and balanced source of energy our batteries become drained and our physical, mental and emotional health suffers. We ride an exhausting cycle of high and low energy fuelled by caffeine, sugar or other quick fixes and this rollercoaster ride can deliver us at burnout.
It is a fusion of integrative health and nutrition, psychology, emotional intelligence, neuroscience, holistic nutritional science and is informed by both my coaching experience and my professional development.
Learn how to nourish your body, mind and soul with nutrition and mindfulness
Learn mind body strategies to find your inner calm and reduce stress & prevent burnout
Learn how to harness your body intelligence to build physical, cognitive and emotional resilience
Gain emotional intelligence and develop a sense of connectedness
Develop curiosity and self compassion whilst exploring patterns of thoughts and behaviours which drive stress
Build confidence in setting boundaries & courage in speaking up
Strengthen intuition, clarity & decision making
Harness your creativity in exploring practical solutions which will have the greatest impact on reducing stress at home and work
Each step of the framework includes bespoke coaching and practical and actionable tools/techniques all aimed at managing stress levels.
How it works.
Restore.
Build a strong foundation
Deep transformation requires energy so we begin with replenishing and restoring physical, cognitive and emotional health.
We identify where stress is depleting you the most and focus on the foundational pillars of good health to create sustainable energy, specifically on adrenal health and stress recovery - nutrition, sleep and movement.
We explore some practical body based techniques to help with nervous system regulation, restore energy and start to build flexibility in your stress response..
Protect.
Set boundaries with confidence
Once we have worked together to replenish your energy levels we then move onto learning how to protect it and maintain a sustainable level of energy. Here we explore the patterns and beliefs which have been driving you towards burnout.
Building the confidence to establish and hold boundaries so that you can avoid people pleasing behaviours and overcommitting.
Being emotionally resilient is key to building stress resilience. We will work together to evolve your emotional intelligence to help you understand, regulate and respond to your emotions. Throughout you will cultivate a deeper understanding of your emotions and learn to recognise triggers and patterns that contribute to stress. You will also learn practical strategies to manage and regulate emotional responses so that you can shift from reactive to responsive behaviour.
We will also explore how suppressing or avoiding emotions have led to unhealthy coping mechanisms (food, alcohol etc) and build capacity to process uncomfortable emotions.
Liberate.
Break free from overwhelm
We work together to liberate you from behaviours which are driving your stress levels. Building your inner confidence so that you can start to trust yourself and make decisions which are aligned with the things which matter the most to you.
We explore behaviours such as perfectionism and procrastination and aim to create awareness of how these unconscious drivers are draining your energy and adding to the overload.
We also work together to overcome self doubt so that you are able to build your self worth, releasing the need to continually seek external validation through your work.
All of this aimed at strengthening self trust and reclaiming your personal power and autonomy.
Nourish.
Heal from stress inside and out
We work together to nourish yourself from the inside out. Nourishment of the body, mind and soul requires a shift in how we feel about ourselves, so we start with development of self compassion. We focus on relationships with both self and others and we process emotions such as guilt, shame and resentment to release them.
Throughout we explore how to make simple nutrition and lifestyle shifts for better energy and focus.
Express.
Find your voice
We work together to learn how to express your true needs. You learn how to ask for for help and what you need without guilt. Understanding our needs and learning how to meet them is a non negotiable for stress resilience, so together we explore how to strengthen your relationship with yourself so that you can meet these needs and not burnout through self sacrifice.
We will explore ways in which you can build your confidence both at home and at work so that you can set boundaries and protect your energy.
We will explore your identity and start to uncover who you are underneath the weight of all the demands of being a parent. What lights you up and how you want to spend the time you will have when you let go of the behaviours which are driving you towards burnout.
Calm.
Quiet the mental noise
We work together to calm your mind of overthinking and mental clutter. The cornerstone of my approach is mindfulness, so we develop your awareness of your thoughts and how they drive you towards behaviours which lead to increased stress.
I use a body based approach to calming the stress response, over thinking can be a result of under feeling so we work together to process emotions so that you can move though them and find your inner calm.
Together we build your capacity to stay present under stress and reduce the needs for the behaviours used to avoid emotions such as alcohol, food, scrolling.
I support you to develop your body intelligence and connect with your intution, build you mental clarity and make decisions.
Align.
Live in alignment
We work together to align and thrive. Integrating all the awareness and learning to build a sustainable and meaningful way of living and lasting resilience. Embedding all the tools and practices into a sustainable lifestyle.
Throughout the journey together we will have been exploring your values, your purpose and your identity so this final stage is focused on moving forward with a clear alignment with those towards a life which is filled with joy, happiness, fun, play, vitality and presence.
Why choose me as your coach?
You want to work with a coach who has personal experience of the challenges of parental burnout
You’d like to work with a coach with expertise in health and nutrition, burnout, stress management, nervous system regulation, emotional intelligence, eating psychology and alcohol free coaching
You want a whole person approach – you’re open to going deeper and exploring your beliefs, values and identity – not just your surface level actions and behaviour.
You want someone to empower you to parent in your way, not tell you how to parent.
You want an experienced coach who continually invests in professional development.
You want a coach who practices ethically - I work in line with both the UKIHCA Scope of Practice and the IAPC&M guidance.
The Resilient Parent
Details
6 month coaching programme based on my unique Stress Spectrum™ framework.
1 x 90 minute exploratory session
2 x 60 minute 1:1 coaching sessions each month for 6 months (online)
Recovery from burnout can take a number of years, pulling back from the brink of burnout isn’t always a quick process. The parents I have worked with have required time and space to make the changes, to integrate, to process and to heal.
In my experience two sessions a month is a balance of being highly supportive without adding to the overwhelm. Working parents juggle school holidays so commiting to a 6 month programme allows for flexibility around childcare.
I will care deeply about you and our work together, my support is high touch and bespoke to you and your needs.
Investment
£250 x 6 monthly payments or £1,500 pay in full
Support between sessions
You’ll have access to me during office hours on email or WhatsApp, where you can request support, reflect on challenges, celebrate successes and feedback on progress.
Resources
After each session, I’ll signpost you to resources to explore in your own time, alongside any other relevant resources, which might be a worksheet, coaching framework, book, podcast recommendations or journaling prompts. These are bespoke to you and you’ll have access to these after we’ve completed our work together.
The tools, techniques and practices you learn throughout our journey together will become lifelong companions as you embed them into your day to day life.